Co-parenting relationships

[mellie]

Interesting outcome today, I attempted to extend an olive branch and reach a safe and fair compromise however ex wasn't happy and we have to return to court only for the judge to rule the minimal orders regardless.

Prosecutors are hoping he will see reason and agree to the minimal orders, of which is simply not to commit act's of family violence in future.

Prosecutor wanted more. Wanted current IVO conditions to remain in place, but I said "I'm court exhausted, am happy to accept the minimal orders if we can reach an agreement today."


I'm flabbergasted, doesn't make sense.

Most in his position would jump at this before I changed my mind, but he's refused to compromise.

So, either he can accept the minimal orders proposed, and save himself the expense of returning to court, only to be slapped with harsher orders, or keep adjoining it for reasons I for the life of me can't understand.

Both his lawyer and prosecutor can't understand why he didn't jump at the minimal orders proposed.

In light of the situation, he's made a huge mistake.

Judges don't like theirs or the court's time being wasted.

I'm starting to think he love's coming to court.

[mellie]

Sorry for speaking out loud, I'm just exhausted and want this to be over. Will try to say no more about it.
Will start tearing my hair out instead. Lol

[sprintcyclist]

Holding out an Olive branch is a good idea.
Yes, he probably wants a destructive battle. Sorry to hear that.
Judges do not like their time wasted when there is an obvious easy answer between the two.
he will come out 2nd best. Everyone will lose.

I used to find a walk helped. A nice long walk. Clears the head and heart.

[mellie]

Holding out an Olive branch is a good idea.
Yes, he probably wants a destructive battle. Sorry to hear that.
Judges do not like their time wasted when there is an obvious easy answer between the two.
he will come out 2nd best. Everyone will lose.

I used to find a walk helped. A nice long walk. Clears the head and heart.

So pulling my hair out isn't desirable u don't thin kk



Lol battery dead. Charge when I get home

[BigP]

Sorry for speaking out loud, I'm just exhausted and want this to be over. Will try to say no more about it.
Will start tearing my hair out instead. Lol

Mel I feel for you mate, sounds like your ex is a real asswipe. Its a terrible situation you find yourself in. I hope it works out well in the end for you,

[mellie]

Thanks Big P.

Just praying we can both arrive at an amicable outcome soon. It's in our daughters best interest that she see us being able to get along respectfully , this opposed to dumping her off at play centre's whereby due to IVO we can't even communicate freely.

I am hoping once he understands that having conditions attached to an over-turned order, isn't an admission of guilt, he'll be ok with it.


It doesn't mean he's unable to approach us, just means that if he does he needs to adhere to conditions

That he doesn't commit an act of family violence.

Not a big ask is it?

[BigP]

Thanks Big P.

Just praying we can both arrive at an amicable outcome soon. It's in our daughters best interest that she see us being able to get along respectfully , this opposed to dumping her off at play centre's whereby due to IVO we can't even communicate freely.

I am hoping once he understands that having conditions attached to an over-turned order, isn't an admission of guilt, he'll be ok with it.


It doesn't mean he's unable to approach us, just means that if he does he needs to adhere to conditions

That he doesn't commit an act of family violence.

Not a big ask is it?

Its hard on kids when their parents have such an acrimonious relationship after a split, you need to try and sort the little things first and then work your way towards the more challenging stuff ,,

[Black Orchid]

It's really hard when you are dealing with someone who won't think rationally but ultimately all you can do is what is best for the children.

Adults eventually brush off the hard and negative times and move on. Children don't and will always suffer the consequences.

[sprintcyclist]

He might have painted himself into a psychological corner.

[mellie]

Thanks guy's, some sound advice there indeed, just hoping he takes a step back, thinks about it, and gets it sorted.

Effectively, he's insulted the prosecutor, the prosecutor was quite harsh and wasn't even going to change a thing, wanted to keep the IVO and it's current conditions in place, indefinitely.

I then spoke up and said, I'm exhausted, sick of coming to court, lift the stinking thing and be done with it. The minimal condition of no family violence in the order was offered to him and he's pissed off the prosecutor and judge who both wanted it finalized today. This has been going for almost 12 month's, he just keeps contesting and having it adjourned.

Basically, they're giving him some time to come to his senses before we return to court in August with it, what is proposed is that he accepts the "minimal" conditions and avoids wasting the court's time.

Seriously, the only real winner here is his barrister.