Co-parenting relationships

[mellie]

Has anyone here had any experience with co-parenting relationships/arrangements?


Either firsthand or know of someone who has?


I'd prefer to hear positive stories, but like they say, honesty is the best policy and any advice/feedback is appreciated.


Thanks.

[Malcolm_hates_your_kids]

Suicide is a factor worth taking into account!

Money dries up, basically, and the disheartened child can grow up into what seems like a useless and near endless struggle for the basics they needed a long time ago that everyone else had and no longer desire. Basically, the kid felt left out and it can't be repaired by not acknowledging it as important.

You can talk about stars that rose from a pile of droppings all you want: if you don't take extra care you can have a bad dream on your hands.

[sprintcyclist]

Has anyone here had any experience with co-parenting relationships/arrangements?


Either firsthand or know of someone who has?


I'd prefer to hear positive stories, but like they say, honesty is the best policy and any advice/feedback is appreciated.


Thanks.

Yes, we did it for years. It's a bit of planning but works ok.
You are better to live close to each other and be flexible.

I stopped it when one of the kids said it is hard for them.
They have to move home every week.

Not having coparenting does not mean being a parent stops.
I used to take them out to dinners at cafes.
they are grown up now

[Neferti]

Has anyone here had any experience with co-parenting relationships/arrangements?


Either firsthand or know of someone who has?


I'd prefer to hear positive stories, but like they say, honesty is the best policy and any advice/feedback is appreciated.


Thanks.

In a word? No, I didn't go through the "co-parenting" thing. He lived in Sydney and I moved to Canberra.
He didn't even remember her 6th birthday. End of.

I have experienced, what I would call, a wonderful way for parents (living in the same area) to co-parent.

My daughter had a friend at Primary School. I think I have told this before ... there were 2 daughters and they were co-parented ... one week with Mum, next week with Dad ... all the girls needed to take with them was their school bags. Clothes, toys and so forth were available at both houses.

My daughter spent the occasional "sleepover" at both houses. I knew both parents, both professional people.

[mellie]

Thanks Malcolm and Sprint, you both raised valid point's.


I'm trying to ensure the best possible outcome for the most important person central to this.


We have both participated in post separation parenting programs, ours is a complex matter.

My hope is that the current access arrangement works well.

I don't believe children with or without autism should be expected to live out of two houses, and be alternated, shuffled between separated parents like property, objects.

We live 75 mins from each other.


So far, current access arrangement seems to suit her.


Thanks again.

I appreciate your honest input.

Courts tomorrow.

[mellie]

Thanks Nef,


I appreciate your response too.


Has given me a fair bit to ponder.

Safety , routine and predictability are important factors for us.

She has multiple therapies throughout the week.

[mellie]

The same area factor seems to be a good idea.
Flexibility, teamwork and a genuine desire by both parents is key.

My parents divorced when I was a baby, though remained good friend's so when I saw my parents together, their interaction was positive and respectful.

There were no sides, they were still on side with each other as parents, and they didn't require post separation classes to figure this was the optimal way. This was in the early 80s.

[sprintcyclist]

Thanks Malcolm and Sprint, you both raised valid point's.


I'm trying to ensure the best possible outcome for the most important person central to this.


We have both participated in post separation parenting programs, ours is a complex matter.

My hope is that the current access arrangement works well.

I don't believe children with or without autism should be expected to live out of two houses, and be alternated, shuffled between separated parents like property, objects.

We live 75 mins from each other.


So far, current access arrangement seems to suit her.


Thanks again.

I appreciate your honest input.

Courts tomorrow.

Try to avoid courts.
The best arrangement will be what the two of you agree on.

[sprintcyclist]

The same area factor seems to be a good idea.

I rented a place within walking distance

[Neferti]

Thanks Nef,


I appreciate your response too.


Has given me a fair bit to ponder.

Safety , routine and predictability are important factors for us.

She has multiple therapies throughout the week.

I am sorry to hear that, Mel. That makes a whole lot of difference. It also makes me feel so very sad for you and your little girl, as well at her Daddy.